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Divorce Mediation -10 Signs It May Not Work For Your Divorce
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Sometimes a little bit of humor can help us put things in perspective and relieve a little bit of tension in a given situation. Mediation is a great tool to resolve divorce issues, but it doesn't work in every situation, especially in a situation where the parties are set on a particular outcome.
With that in mind, I offer you a list of 10 signs why mediation may not work in your divorce. While some of these 10 signs may seem silly, they all contain a grain of truth which can make mediation a useless pursuit for the parties. They can reflect a particular state of mind that is not really conducive to negotiating and reaching a divorce settlement agreement.
I use the second-person singular pronoun, you for the purpose of clarity. But you can be your spouse, not necessarily you. These are not in any particular order, although the first one is very real.
1. You want to "win" no matter what the cost may be. This can be a financial as well as an emotional cost.
2. You and your spouse can’t agree on what day it is, much less sit down to talk civilly with each other.
3. When you ask each other a question, the answer is “talk to my lawyer.”
4. You think mediation is for pansies and weak-willed people. Examples of famous people who easily dispel this fantasy, and who engaged in mediation or negotiation, include Madonna (in her recent divorce), and baseball player Alex Rodriguez.
5. You think negotiating is a sign of weakness.
6. You think there is only one solution to a problem.
7. You think “My Way” is a lifestyle and not just one of Frank Sinatra’s signature songs.
8. You think “The War of the Roses” is a fictional movie. It is a fictional account until you remember a particularly horrific news item in your local newspaper.
9. You’d much rather subsidize your lawyer’s country club fees than split any assets with your spouse.
10. You’re stuck in the past. Your focal point is not the present or future, with a view to finding solutions.
If none of the above are present in your divorce, or are not really pronounced, then perhaps mediation may be an available alternative to a contested divorce.
Inventive Ways To Handle Child Custody Issues
Posted by: | CommentsHave you ever wanted a way to communicate and manage your co-parenting issues without actually talking to
your Ex?
Two websites have solved the problem and are being used successfully by parents and legal authorities. The parents have to sign up and pay around $100 per year to use the site. Other people that are involved in your child custody issues such as Grandparents, etc. can use the sites also.
"In Broward and Miami Dade courts, some judges are ordering parents to use the websites, such as OurFamilyWizard.com and ShareKids.com, to communicate with each other. One benefit is that the sites can be viewed by judges and attorneys, thereby eliminating constant court visits over scheduling, financial issues and simple miscommunication.
Ugly court battles often leave couples unable to speak to each other, or worse, sending repeated emails that can be altered and deleted, leaving no record of the discord or how to resolve it. The Wizard and other sites give therapists, divorce mediators, family coordinators and even the courts the ability to view the site and resolve issues without costly litigation."
Read more: http://www.miamiherald.com/2011/05/25/2231034/cyber-mediation.html#ixzz1NTgcgtXU
For Divorced parents trying to manage their child custody issues but are having a hard time of it...this may be an excellent solution.
