You may notice that your emotions are different to other people who are separated. This appears, in part,to depend on who has ended the relationship- whether its you or your ex partner. The person who suggests the relationship is over may have had many months and often years to think about their decision,therefore they have traveled along the emotional road before their partner. They are also feeling different emotions, probably more guilt,relief and sadness , rather than the shock,rejection, anger, grief and confusion of the partner who is left.
“When i hear about relationships between people , or marriages, whatever the case may be, breaking up, for whatever reason, i feel for them-i really do, because i know the pain they are going to go through-everyone goes through it in one way,shape or form. Initially one will hurt more than the other,in the beginning, normally the “dumpee”, the person that gets left behind. The person that leaves, the”dumper”,thinks they’ve done the right thing, and they may have. But at some period of time, maybe at a later stage ,they go through a lot of pain too-in my case 18 months later and i just couldn’t appreciate how that could happen: that after 18 months of me making the “decision”,i was the dumper, thinking I’d “moved on” and living in what I thought was my own “single man’s paradise”,after 18 months i found myself falling apart. So I empathize with people-I think we all suffer through it (a relationship breakdown)